In the May Newsletter, we discussed the benefit of listening to our children, especially to their feelings. Let's focus now on how useful it can be to discover what our children are interested in.

During infancy, the baby communicates through facial expressions and gestures and sounds. These signals are called feelings ― interest, enjoyment, surprise, distress, anger, fear, shame, disgust (reaction to toxic tastes), and dissmell (reaction to toxic odors).

Sometimes turning things on their heads — turning things upside down — allows us to see issues differently and make important changes.

Why do we still spank children? The usual answer is to get them to do what we think is best for them - i.e., to obtain behavioral compliance. And, yet, the answer is much more complicated...